Dilemma

You are at a party. 1) Do you prefer chatting with somebody who asks you lots of questions and seems to be interested in who you are? Or 2) do you prefer somebody who won’t ask questions but let you speak about yourself only if you want to (that requires that you take the initiative to talk about yourself without having been asked any questions). Do you think it’s polite or rude to ask questions to somebody you don’t know, at a party for instance? (and I don’t mean too personal questions here)
I’m seriously wondering you see so I’d like to know what your opinion is.
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9 Responses

  1. There are a few sentences superimposed there but I think I get the gist of what you are asking.

    I like a.

    And, I don’t think it rude at all but then I’m not English. I’ve sometimes been thought of as ‘nosey’ whereas I’m merely displaying interest.

    Why do you ask?

  2. I prefer people who ask me questions. They are usually the ones who are interested in having meaningful, or at least comical conversations.

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  3. If you ask questions appropriate to how long you’ve known someone and how far they’ve opened up to you then no, it’s not rude at all. In fact, it makes the interviewee feel as though someone else in interested in what they have to say. But the interviewer has to be willing to also answer a few questions in return.

    Why do you ask?

  4. I always play it by ear but I can’t stand the silence and will break wind,I mean break the silence first. I’m always inquisitive as in the Spanish Inquisition unless they are absolutely boring.I have a way of pulling information out of people and they usually tend to trust me and tell me everything.But if they are a drone, then, I will begin to analyze and profile them and imagine them as a serial killer. Quite naturally, I entertain myself.I found it quite interesting, talking to people who have commited more heinous crimes than myself.It’s an art or a taste you must acquire.But I like to get into their heads. I do that with everybody though. Feel that heaviness right now Mickelino…

  5. id rather get pissed and dance on tables

  6. Well thanks for your input guys! Well the reason I’m asking is because I had a little argument the other day with a friend. She thinks I ask to many questions and I think she talks to much about herself!!! I know this sounds like high-school problems, but I’ve actually been reflecting on this lately.

    I personally think that people who don’t ask any questions (at a party for instance) are rude. Everyone should make minimum effort to get to know the other person, right.

    But i guess the key is what Ms. Mac’s saying: The questions should be appropriate to the time you’ve known the person. Which isn’t really what I do. My questions can get very nosey and too personal although I’ve know the person 5 minutes.

    I guess, I’ll just follow Tom’s advice, not ask any questions and get wasted/dance on tables int he future.

    Nomad, why would you say that it’s very English to NOT ask questions?

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  7. I don’t like it when people ask me too many questions – I prefer to be the “interviewer” rather than the “interviewee” – somehow, and I know this is ridiculous, I’m more comfortable disclosing information myself that way??!! When people ask me questions I always feel that my answers aren’t very interesting…OMG, do I have issues, do you think??

  8. It’s English because the English hate nosiness. They don’t want you to be nosey about them and, as a result, don’t want to be perceived as nosey. Makes sense, ja?

  9. I prefer chatting with the guy who I will most likely be taking home. All this talk, and chatting… blah blah blah.

    What profit is there in that?

    But if pressed, I suppose I would talk to someone who was genuinely interested in my responses, as opposed to someone who was only speaking to me out of politeness, never really wanting to know anything about me, or what I want.–>

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